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How To Find A Boyfriend: 14 Tips to Find the Right Guy

Most people look for a stable partner, and rightly so. We all get lonely sometimes, and to build a happy and peaceful life, you need someone to spend it with you. So, if you are looking for just the right guy to share your love and life with, here are some tips that can help you find a boyfriend. 

Pro Tip: Stop stressing over finding the right guy; how about starting to look for people that might interest you? You never know; someone who isn’t your type may be the one. 

Read our 14 tips about finding the right guy:

1. Know What Your Want Clearly

The right guy, the dream boy, the man of your dreams, all these are terms that girls use to look for their perfect partner. But you won’t be able to find that partner until you know your type. You can’t build a connection with a guy if you are unsure of what you are looking for. 

Whether it’s the looks alone or the personality, do you want a neat freak or a health fanatic? All these questions are important ones to ask yourself. An introvert or an extrovert? Someone who is bold and outgoing, or one who likes to stay in and enjoy a cozy winter night. Think about the values and ambitions you have. Do you want your partner to be the same, or are you willing to try the theory that opposites attract?

Looks are important, but some things matter more, like care, love, and respect. You should look for a man who has all of these and good looks. 

2. Things Happen When You Stop Trying and Start Enjoying

Here’s the thing, men know when a woman is trying too hard. If you look desperate, you will have a harder time finding a boyfriend. So, here’s a million-dollar tip, stop trying and start enjoying it. 

Enjoy your single life, party with friends, and hang out at cool places; you never know if your carefree demeanor will attract guys better than your old stiff self. Daydreaming about your romantic future and making scenarios in your head all indicate that you are too immature to handle a serious relationship. 

Try and sort your feelings first; once you are ready for a relationship, the right guy will fall into your lap without even trying. 

3. Consider the Dating Apps

The world of dating apps is massive; there are too many people to swipe left and right. So, try your luck with dating apps. There is nothing wrong with using dating apps to find true love; many before you have been successful with dating apps. 

Have a great profile picture, fill out an interesting bio, and use the questionnaires to fill out the right and detailed information about yourself. Moreover, if you can, buy the paid version to get more perks. There are many apps out there, like Tinder,, and eharmony that help you find guys that most suit your profile and interests. 

Best Dating Sites and Apps to Find a Boyfriend Online

RankSite or AppRatingTrial
#1eHarmony4.8/5.0Free Trial
#2Tinder4.8/5.0Free Trial
#3Match4.5/5.0Free Trial
#4Zoosk4.5/5.0Free Trial
#5Hinge4.0/5.0Free Trial

Besides having a vast database, online apps are less intimidating than real-life encounters with guys. So, use that to your advantage, match with guys, make connections, and strike up conversations. If you think your connection is a good match, meet for a real date and see how things go. 

4. Clubs and Groups

Dance groups, book clubs, game rooms, and other such activity groups are great places to meet new people. If you aren’t a part of these yet, you should join a local one as soon as possible. However, make sure you find one that personally interests you so that when you do find a guy at one, there are common grounds to talk about. 

Your group can either be a physical one or an online one; either way, make sure you join one that is up your alley. This will get you out of your comfort zone, help you meet new people, and make some new friends to hang with. The more you broaden your circle, the better your chances are of finding a suitable boy. 

5. Ask your Friends To Set You Up 

Going on blind dates set up by friends isn’t such a bad idea. You can also go on blind dates using dating apps too. Either way, the more you explore the dating world, the better chances you have of finding the perfect guy for yourself. 

If you are being set up by your friends on a blind date, make sure they know the guy personally. Moreover, make sure you guys meet at a public spot when you first meet. Arrive a bit earlier than the time given; this helps you compose yourself before your date arrives and also leaves a good impression on the guy. 

Your friends know you better than anyone, even better than the woman who gave birth to you. So, if they are willing to set you up with someone they know, don’t turn them down. 

6. Local Events

For an introvert, finding a date can be hard. However, with little effort, you can meet new people who may be your potential partner. Search about events happening near you. Find the ones you are comfortable attending and secure tickets. The event can be anything, a concert, a book read, etc. 

Meeting new people ensures new friends, and you never know when a new friend might become a love interest. Love can be found in unexpected places; you just need to keep your eyes and heart open. 

7. Give A Go To Harmless flirting

If you have a very shy nature, most people might not look your way, thinking you don’t want them to. Shy people can give off signals that they rather not be disturbed. However, if you want to bag a boyfriend anytime soon, you might need to change a little.

There is no harm in flirting a bit with people you just met. If you are too shy to give it a go in person, you can start with online platforms. If you have downloaded dating apps for this purpose, you might want to start there. Sliding in people’s DMs, texting them first, and sending a flirty meme won’t hurt. 

To catch people’s eyes, you need to show more interest in the things they do. Leave a compliment about their profile or work if they have left a link. Yes, making the first move is never easy, but someone needs to; take charge of your destiny and make things fall into place. 

8. Singles Meetups

Singles meetups are a new trend; find out if these happen around you and attend one. These meetups are great places to meet new people and make friends. These events aren’t just for hookups or finding love connections but for getting to know people, doing activities together, and having a great time. 

These are tons better than spending the night alone at home. It’s a great way to interact with new people and learn from their life experiences. This will give you a new perspective to see your situation. 

9. Volunteer to Different Causes

Compassion, care, and love are all the things that a great relationship needs. When people see how compassionate you are, they tend to fall in love. So, show your compassion and care for the people who need it. Start volunteering more, be the source of someone else’s happiness, and soon you will be blessed with your own. 

However, don’t use volunteering as a means to find a boyfriend. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not. Give it a shot; if it works for you and makes you happy, keep it up. But if it’s not for you, there are tons more places you can try. 

10. Dress to Impress At All Times

You can find love or, rather, your next boyfriend at any place, so always dress to impress. Whether you are commuting home from work or are out grocery shopping, don’t forget to look presentable. 

If you want guys to approach you, no matter where you are, you need to look approachable. No one wants to date a hag who just got out of bed, so make a little effort even when you are running errands. Bad hygiene is a huge turn-off, so bear that in mind as well.

This doesn’t mean you have to dress to the nines, but at least look presentable. Brush out the hair, add cream and some blush, and put on light lipstick. Wear brightly colored clean clothes and always wear perfume. Pack away your sweats and all baggy clothing till after you find someone you are truly comfortable with. 

11. Bite The Bullet and Ask Your Crush Out

If you have been crushing on a guy from work or any other place you are regular, you need to woman up and ask him out. What’s there to lose? If he is your friend, he must know how cool you are. If he hangs with you regularly, there is a chance he might secretly like you too. 

If you are shy, why not use a card or ask over text? There are many ways you can impress your crush and then ask him out for a date or a casual coffee date. You can go in a group, catch a movie, or just stroll in the park after your shift. There are too many possibilities, but you have to try first. So, bite the bullet and ask your crush out; you never know, maybe he is waiting for you to make the first move. 

12. Don’t Settle for Less

Just because your prince is taking a bit of time to come your way doesn’t mean you will settle for just about anyone. Relax, hold your horses, princess. Do not settle for less; you deserve the best, and the best will get to you sooner than later. In the meanwhile, you have fun searching for your prince. 

If you are dating someone, and you see red flags, like anger, gaslighting, emotional abuse, etc., there is no reason you should stand that. Walk away; there are better men out there who are polite, calm, know how to respect women, etc. Don’t let your emotions guide your heart; a bad boyfriend will be nothing but the worst headache possible. 

13. Don’t Decline Invites

For an introvert, it’s hard to attend crowded events. However, if you keep declining invites, there is a 1 in 100 chance you will meet new people. Get out of your comfort zone and start accepting invites to different events. If you have a friend you are comfortable with, take them along. This will be good practice for the future as well. 

When at the event, don’t be a wallflower; mingle, talk to people and make new connections with strangers. Take this as your new assignment and win at it. Remember, Cinderella met her prince at the ball she wasn’t going to attend. So, be your fairy Godmother and attend all balls. 

14. Don’t Pretend

Here’s the thing, men are naive; they may not be able to know if you are pretending or not, but how long will you keep the facade up? The real you is much better than the pretend you. And the one who loves the pretends you will never be able to love the real you. So, keep things real and honest, and always be who you are, not a shadow of your real self.

You don’t have to pretend you are a party animal just to get your friends to invite you to hip parties, nor should you pretend to be adventurous when you are not. If you think people might label you dull, so be it. You don’t need validation from anyone. 

What you can do is be a better version of yourself. Polish and groom yourself; you don’t need to pretend anything, just be you, and the rest will fall into place itself. 


To have the best relationship, two partners need compatibility more than anything. So, try to find someone with the same mindset as you. Above all, you deserve kindness, compassion, and respect before love, so don’t settle for less.

Derek Ma

As a project manager with 10+ years of experience in dating service, I totally understand how dating platforms work. Online dating is convenient but could be challenging with both good and bad, I would like to share my insights with you :)

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